On Love

Love is such a broad topic. I think it is the most energetic
force in the universe. The opposite of love is fear. This
love is a greater love than we can fully grasp. Pure
love is one without judgment, without conditions, and
without motive. Love encompasses respect and compass-
sion but it is the greater element. To love someone is to
truly accept them as they are. This applies to self-love as
well. Truly accept yourself as you are. Offer love and
acceptance and forgiveness to every part of yourself.
It is necessary to do this first to a great extent before you
give out love to others.

Love is also about change. Love will always offer a better
way of doing something or a way of being in exchange
for one that is not working. Love encourages us to the greatest
arena of our imagination and life. It encourages everyone
equally. It offers acceptance equally. As you open to "Love"
it begins to fill your whole being. Then it begins to fill your
whole sphere of influence; your friends, your family, your
students, your associates, the people that you encounter.
One person or creature offering out pure love begins an
overflow of energy that can affect the whole world, and the
whole universe. It doesn't sound possible but love is such a
big force that wave after wave of love can affect great
change starting with you.

Love transforms fear, which contain all the elements that
vibrate at low frequencies; fear, terror, anger, hatred,
rage, envy, jealousy, grief, sadness, hostility, disrespect,
disgust, and alienation. Love heals. It takes away the
hurt and transforms any residual that remains. Love purifies
everything that it touches. But once it comes in it never
leaves you nor forsakes you. It continues to purify to the
highest vibration possible. It affects change because it
purifies so deeply, and so completely. It is capable of touching every area of your life and others. Love does not force. Love just keeps loving.
With love great joy is allowed to come in.

If you don't feel that you have love in your life, start
offering love first to yourself. Offer yourself to love.
Let it have every thought, every hurt, every dark, bad
moment. It will receive everything that you give it without
condemnation and offer great compassion.

Next allow the people that come to offer kindness, and
compassion to touch you. Let them hug you. Hear their
words. Let words of love come into your thoughts without
rejecting them. Change any thinking that has been telling
you that you are unworthy of love or kindness. Begin to
receive the small shows of affection. The hugs, the
smiles, the gentle touches. Children offer unconditional
love. They are usually happy to offer you hugs and
affection. Animals are a good source of affection and love.

Volunteering is a very good way to extend love out.
Practice kindness. Imagine how past kindly loving
guides would love them. How would Jesus love this
person? What would he think about them? What would
he say to them? How would he feel about this person or
about me? How would Gandhi act in this situation? How
would Mother Teresa behave towards them?

If you have not read about the lives of these great kindly
beings, read everything that you can. The New Testament
in the bible Specifically John is a great place to start.
Gandhi The Man is very good book. As is
The Celestine Prophecy series, Conversations With God series.

If you are open to it strangers may surprise you with an
act of kindness and love. Very often spontaneous moments
offer great warmth and love. Do not reject this. Many
times we are afraid of the other and do not offer affection to
someone that is hurting. One way to receive more love
is to reach out to someone who is hurting. A stranger or an
acquaintance could greatly use kindness and love from you.
In that moment there is a great exchange of love. You have
acted as an instrument of love.

Praying about love and asking how to be a more loving
person
can give you great comfort and insight. Examples will be
shown to you. Moments will be open to you in which you
can choose to give love and to receive it. The more times
that you embrace those moments in a loving manner, you
will begin to open to the subtlety of love. Acts of loving come
in the small quiet places to the great big dramatic moments.
Each time if you pray and meditate in your heart and ask how
would "love" react here you will receive insight as to how you
could act to express love.

It is not always easy especially when you are dealing with
a person who is cranky, grouchy, unjust or nasty. You have to
look beyond the criticism, beyond their unpleasantness and see
that more often than not they are afraid. Perhaps that person
has gotten to this moment of crankiness, and being mean or
controlling because they learned that behavior. They don't
know how to be nice. Or they have been hurt so many times
that they have forgotten how to drop their defenses. They are
stuck. You can help them by accepting them as they are.
Offering love and kindness in spite of how they behave.